The Judge and the Judged

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Janice Wingfield

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High school can be the most difficult part in a person’s life. Good grades, the future, the drama, and most importantly the bullying.

Bullying can happen in many different ways. Harassing someone physically, cyber-bullying, and verbal bullying. Much of the verbal bullying can come from girls.

Girls judge other girls. It’s human nature.

But the big question is, why do girls judge other girls knowing how hard it is to be a girl?

Girls judge each other on what they wear, how they act, and the things they do. Many Girls love to complain and gossip. Many girls judge if they feel threatened, don’t understand someone, or are offended by another.

Oftentimes, if you stir drama with a girl once, you might just have an enemy for life.  

If someone is doing better than the other girl, they label them as overly confident, or conceited. And most of the gossiping is about a girl who has achieved more than the other. Or someone can be too self conscious, too shy, and too different, which causes the other girls not to understand and prejudge.

No matter what you do, you will always get judged.

But of course, not every girl is like that. Some stand against the bullying of one another. They try to help one another, try to avoid the drama, and try to not care what their peers think of them. One of the girls who has definitely mastered the technique is, Allyssa Smith.    

Smith is a senior at SHS, so she has had plenty of experience. Smith is a very strong-minded person who doesn’t care what people think and doesn’t put up with any drama.

“Girls are always judging one another. I mean I judge all the time, but I don’t say it out loud. I keep it to myself because it doesn’t need to be said.” But, Smith gets judged, too, just like everyone else. “I’m always getting judged. When I walk into the halls, they whisper my name under their breath or look at me a certain way.”

“You just can’t care. Or you can’t let them see that you care. You just have to ignore it. You can’t give them any attention because after awhile they will get tired and stop. If you keep giving them attention and entertaining their ideas, it will never stop.”

When being asked if anything has made her this way she said, ‘ It’s not worth it to be upset. It’s just stupid high school games and I’m not going to be a part of it.”

“They make high school not an enjoyable place. It makes people not confident in themselves. People start to harm themselves and start bad habits to numb themselves from the pain. They spend their time hiding in a closet because they’re scared of what other people are going to think. So they dress and act to impress.”

But of course, not everyone is going to be the same way as Allyssa Smith. Smith has had plenty of experience in the field, unlike the freshman.

However, there is one freshman that has the same mindset as Smith.

Eliza Gilbert, a freshman a SHS has been bullied ever since 7th grade. “7th grade was a hard year. I was judged at the beginning of the year. I hung out with the not-so-popular kids and so other people didn’t really approve.”

After time went on Gilbert started to realize that all of this drama didn’t matter. Everything that they were saying about her, didn’t matter. “Everyone has their own opinions. If someone is judging me on what I do, it doesn’t affect me. It shouldn’t affect what I do.”

“After a while I realized those people didn’t matter. I knew that there was no point in caring about other people’s opinions that didn’t make me feel good about myself. I wasn’t going to spend time worrying about them.”

There’s always good girls out there. All girls aren’t the same gossipy, drama-attracted girls. Many girls are victims of bullying from other girls, and not all of them are going to be as strong as Smith and Gilbert. That’s why us girls need to stick together and help each other out.

Other girls aren’t your enemies. It’s not a competition. Instead of competing with one another, we should love and protect each other rather than judge each other. Because, what’s the point?

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The Judge and the Judged